Milk and Madness | From partners to parents: Relationship dynamics in the first year 👨🏾‍👩🏾‍👧🏾 👪 👩🏼‍👩🏼‍👧🏼 (Ep. 21)

From partners to parents: Relationship dynamics in the first year 👨🏾‍👩🏾‍👧🏾 👪 👩🏼‍👩🏼‍👧🏼 (Ep. 21)

June 27, 2024 / 29:16/S2:E5 Download MP3

Partners to Parents: Such a dramatic change occurs when your bundle of joy arrives. Is there anything that can prepare you? We say yes and no. The classes and lessons from friends and family can give you a theoretical understanding of what to expect. The reality, however, is generally different.

Key takeaways:

Impact on Relationships:

Having children can profoundly impact a relationship. A baby is not a solution to fix a troubled relationship, as it often magnifies existing issues.
Resentment can occur due to uneven distribution of baby care responsibilities. Although hormones can intensify these feelings, communication and regular check-ins can help identify if those feelings are valid and help resolve them.

Adjusting Expectations:

The arrival of a baby will disrupt routines and affect attention and intimacy.
Becoming a parent will require adjustments, however, focus on the child can sometimes lead to neglecting your partner. Making time to be a couple, not just parents, can help maintain connection.

Advice for Prospective Parents:

Nothing can fully prepare you for what's to come and the significant adjustments required.
Seeking help in real time might be the best way to handle each situation as it presents itself.

What we discussed:
00:31 Intro
02:23 Early days- the frustrations and hurdles
07:14 Resentment and hormones
10:37 Advice from first-time dads
13:09 Highlighting the cracks
14:52 Not knowing what you don't know
18:12 Hitting the 12-month mark
20:13 The shift in attention
22:50 The issues during the first 12 months
28:45 Outro

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